You’re working to heal from a loss that has created a void in your life, even if the loss happened years ago. One way we help fill that void is through the construction of your personal Healing Center.
Every Healing Center is different, but each one fulfills the same objective by giving its owner a visual representation of his or her healing. And that visual portrayal reflects back love, understanding and clarity to each of us.
I thought you would enjoy seeing a version of a Healing Center as it develops from phase to phase. It might give you some ideas for your own Healing Center.
Pictured below is the 3′ x 4′ board I’ll be using—you can use something smaller or larger if you like. The board is actually stretched canvas, just like the ones painters use, with foam core mounted on the backside so the pushpins I’ll be using have something solid to go into. You don’t need to use anything this elaborate, but it’s one option. The book offers other suggestions, but if you need help with figuring out what to use for your Healing Center, please feel free to ask. I want you to have the best Healing Center possible!
I’ve hung the canvas on a wall at my office, so if you’re in Los Angeles you could drop by and see the real thing. Hanging your Healing Center is one possibility, but you could also lean it against a wall. Once I had someone make a tri-fold screen for their Healing Center. It was a sophisticated idea and made their Healing Center freestanding. Personally, I don’t think I would have been able to manage something quite that elaborate. We should each do what works best for us.
Here’s my blank canvas.
Next is what the canvas looks like at the completion of Phases One and Two. Note the First Heart Drawing in the upper left corner—of course yours could go anywhere you like. The First Statement of Agreement, the First Statement of Release and some verse are in the center of the board.
Over on the right is an example of the Quick Draw exercise, and below it are a number of “heart quotes” — those italicized sayings that are peppered throughout the text. They were my response to the “Add any useful quotes from this phase to your Healing Center” suggestion that shows up in the Exercise Review sections.
The last picture is of the pins I’m using on the board. You don’t have to just use one type of pin, but I liked the look of these with their compact, white rounded heads, so I’ve made them the one unifying element on the board.
Soon we’ll see how my Healing Center looks at the end of Phase Four. Until then, keep reading, working on the exercises and constructing your Healing Center.